"It was because I heard father and mother," he explained in a low voice, talking about what I was to be when I become a man."
He was extraordinarily agitated now.
"I don't want ever to be a man," he said
with passion. "I want always to be a little boy
and to have fun. So I ran away to
Kensington Gardens and lived a long long time
with the fairies," (Peter Pan, p. 29).
The Deaf (with capital d) is an archetype within the conscious of all the Deaf that contains our awareness of our being Deaf. It is the psychological component that we still think and react to our society like Deaf people, and it is the same component that we're fully aware that the society continues to keep from being able to embrace American Sign Language (ASL).
Of all the betrayals that we the Deaf suffer, perhaps the most poignant of all is the betrayal of ourselves. No example of this is more striking than when we remain committed to our being Deaf, that archetypical force which will hinder us from becoming fully empowered users of ASL.
To better understand why we the Deaf betray ourselves, let me present the most common patterns of this archetype found within the Deaf community. These patterns include behaviors, perceptions, beliefs, and attitudes of the Deaf. This exploration is intended to help us identify how this archetypal force is still in control, and to understand how the Deaf adversely affects our daily lives. They keep us stuck, disempowered and isolated.
The Role Model
The Actor/Actress
- The Hearing Supremacist
The Troublemaker
The Oppressor
Within each of us the Deaf can be found varying degrees of some, if not all, of these patterns. Some patterns may appear to be more "positive" than others, but don't be fooled. All of them, however seemingly benign, are dangerous in a Deaf being's life. Unless we are able to identify which particular pattern(s) most often control our life, we will be unable to live as a mature, initiated Deaf beings. Some will identify mostly strongly with one of the patterns; others may relate to aspects of many or all of them.
The Role Model
"I can hear and talk, and it is the proven road to reward." The Role Model is arguably the most visible part of our being Deaf, most likely because it was one of the main survival strategies that many of us learned early on in order to deal with our society. The Role Model does what hearing people tell him/her to do, thinks the way others want him/her to think. He/she does to great lengths to get hearing people to like him/her--by being nice, polite, obedient, cooperative and well behaved. He/she often uses his/her voice to intgratiate himself/herself to others. He/she strives to please hearing people.
The Actor/Actress"I can pretend to understand everything." On the surface the actor/actress is brash, exhibitionistic, self-assured, single-minded, often exuding an aura of success in relationship with hearing people. In fact, the personailty of the actor/actress is based on a defensive false self that he/she must keep inflated, like a balloon, in order to forget that he/she is Deaf. He/she has great difficulty connecting to the society.
The Hearing Supremacist"I am comfortable with my mode of communication because I am Hard-of-Hearing." The Hearing Supremacist is that aspect of being Deaf that controls the Deaf being's life through superiority. A hearing superiority is related to a behavioral and/or psychological process that has to do with any pathological relationship with auditory-altering experience that has self-depreciating consequences. Our society is told and taught that an ability of any Deaf individual to listen and speak reflects his/her intelligence. Any Hearing Supremacist will tell you that those who can not hear or speak are really in a huge trouble.
The Troublemaker
"I don't know ASL. I speak and sign at the same time so everyone can understand me." Troublemaking is one of the main characteristics of being Deaf. One of the main ways a Troublemaker is problematic. By denying the truth about his/her use of ASL, he/she believes that if people in his/her society really knew his/her use of ASL, they would actually question his/her intelligence. One of the big problems this Troublemaker faces is that he/she believes that in order to deny ASL he/she must be smarter or better than Deaf people. If being Deaf is somehow wrong, then there's no way he/she can reveal his/her use of ASL. Better to stay in denying ASL than risk being looked down.
The Oppressor"Many Deaf people do not know what ASL is." The Oppressor is that part of who we the Deaf are. Having forgotten about our early wounding and specifically how ASL is suppressed by others, we have become one of those people who now oppresses others. Deaf people, who have not found a recovery process through which to heal their early wounding, will often become as severe an oppressor as those who once oppressed them. There are certain bloggers in DeafRead, for example, who practice language bigotry, hegemony and oppression by promoting modes of communication and advocating hearing implants.
Whichever pattern we most strongly identify with should be the indicator of how our allegiance to ASL and out being Deaf plays out, and thus we are most stuck in the archetypal energy. Just two cents of my thought.